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What if I told you there was a whole community of adults who were building relationships around living authentically as their inner little selves? Sound intriguing? Then age play and a little identity might be for you! Age play, like all BDSM, happens only between consenting adults. Age play is not pedophilia. BDSM is not abuse.
All actions, and dynamics described within this ageplay kink take place between legal adults. This can manifest in numerous roles or identities including, but not limited to, consenting adults claiming identities of girls, boys, babies, daddy, mommy, etc. For some, age play is part of negotiated scenes think dungeons and play parties. For others, it is a lifestyle identity that is part of how they always relate to a partner or the world at large.
Having a little identity means different things to different people. For example, I identify as five, and as a boy. I have been involved in queer culture and the leather community for over 15 years. My daddy and I have been together for 13 years, and much of the work that I do in the world centers around working to destigmatize leather dynamics and more specifically age play.
I try to approach life and as many aspects of the world as I can centering my little identity: everything from the shows I watch cartoons!
Leather and littleness is a way of being in the world, a code of ethics that drives everything from the structure of my family to the kind of art that I make. Jesbian Bagheera is queer, POC, femme, dandy, leather, and a service little. California Leather It is a family of people that has shown up in solidarity and given me permission to be me. And not hide who I truly am.
It has also taught me to face my fears and stand up for what I believe in. And it has shown me what friendship and kindness can be when we are all facing difficult times. Bagheera says she gets a lot of pleasure out of being little on a personal level and in her relationships with partners and the leather community.
It also helps me deal with the day to day stresses of being an adult. And it also helps me be more open and vulnerable with my partners. I truly trust my partners to a deeper level. People are drawn to age play dynamics and relationships because they work for them.
Some littles use age play as a cathartic tool to heal from abuse; others enjoy the release of control; others just find it fun. Some bigs enjoy caretaking and world building; others are sadists who enjoy consensual SM. Ultimately, whatever reason people feel called to a life in leather and a little identity, people tend to pathologize age players, suggesting that there is something wrong with people who enjoy BDSM.
But, a study first published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine showed people who participated in BDSM were actually psychologically healthier and happier than the general population. Even though age play is a part of the leather community, sometimes age players have struggled to fit into the larger community. Nik Mirage is a radical queer transboy switch who spoke with me about how important his little identity and little community are to him.
Because when people think of dungeons, they think of heavy leather, rubber impact play, and sex. But we are slowly changing that, and slowly educating more. Those interested in learning more about age play, and little identities, there are numerous online communities on Fetlife think kinky social networking site and Tumblr. So I would be gentle and cautious. Ageplay kink also find a local community that is also into littles. See if you can volunteer and help out while getting to know people.
Sassafras Lowrey is a straight-edge queer punk who grew up to become the ageplay kink of the Lambda Literary Emerging Writer Award. Sassafras lives and writes in Brooklyn with hir partner and their menagerie of dogs and cats. Learn more at www. Fingers Crossed. Queer Street.Ageplay kink
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