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The quantity of prospective dates online is simultaneously the biggest advantage and disadvantage to online dating. I am much okcupid pegging selective of who I respond to online than I am of who I would talk to in the real world, solely due to the sheer volume. Online however, I receive multiple messages daily. Unfortunately it quickly became apparent that the logistics of this simply did not work out.

So I apologize in advanced if my advice comes off as harsh or dismissive of the guys that have reached out to me. Getting many messages and only having the resources to respond to a select few, forces me into becoming very selective. This is purely based on my personal experiences and preferences.

I want to be happy! I want to date someone who is happy! People are attracted to others who look happy and like they are having fun, because we want to be happy and having fun. Above all else — as a guy trying online dating, the last thing you want is to look angry or intimidating!!! The last thing you need is anything in your profile that is going to confirm okcupid pegging fear!

Especially in your main photo, but ideally in all of your photos. So keep this in mind when choosing your picture. Again, as a okcupid pegging online I have an overwhelming amount of options. I can only respond to so many people, and actually meet with even less. Chances are that there is a guy on the site with a comparable profile as yours, but with pictures that actually allow me to see what he looks like. Things that can get in the way of okcupid pegging feeling like I know what you look like can okcupid pegging.

If your main photo falls under this category, your making it harder for yourself. In the same spirit, have more than one picture. We all know a picture can be deceiving, so the more you include, the more confident I am that I know what you look like. Plus more pictures usually give me a better feeling for your personality. As best as possible, your profile should be a reflection of yourself. Would you go about putting together a job the same way? Also I have a theory that a lack of effort in a dating profile is an act of defensiveness.

Talk about what you okcupid pegging, not just what you want. Even if nothing you list applies to me, this just seems very critical and confrontational. I and I assume other girls am attracted to warm and open people.

It also seems a bit cocky to be on a dating site and announce all the okcupid pegging of girls that should keep away from you. There are also a lot of guys that list what they are looking for in a woman.

Rather than bragging about positive qualities i. A good start is to let a girl know what about her profile in particular stood out to you, besides the pictures. That way she gets the feeling you actually took enough interest to read through her profile.

Look for something in her profile that interests you or that you can relate to. Ask a question to learn more, and let her know how you can relate. For example something along these lines has happened several times:.

I get a message from a guy that looks like he might have some potential, and save the message to respond to later. Not even a response? Avoid pictures of you with a bunch of girls. Pictures of you with one other girl look like pictures with an ex girlfriend. An interesting post! As a fellow girl, I would think those things would be a turn-off for me as well. What kind of girls are they trying to attract?? Not only did you go as far as to explain why you may not respond, but actually explained ways to get more replies.

Some with a group and some with one guy in the picture. Now they could be friends or family, but that would make your point null and void because it could also hold true for the guy. Internet dating is like fishing where you sit on your butt and wait to hopefully get a catch. With hunting you just pull the trigger and see what happens. No offense meant, but why even go through the trouble whilst paying a monthly fee? What I will say is that you are completely confused or blindly biased about why some people use dating sites.

What I find better about online dating over going to a bar is that you can meet someone online and immediately understand if the person is not worth your time. At a bar you are seeing someone at their best. She may not be forthcoming with various views so you may waste a night talking to someone who will either be good for a night or good for the next hour. I met my fiance through Okcupid, and have a of friends that found their spouses through online dating. Might not work for everyone, but definitely works for some. Hmmmm this is an interesting perspective.

I used to follow all of this advice and had little luck. Ironically what has worked for me has been he exact opposite of almost everything you suggest. I have 2 pictures, one is an exact shot snowboarding where you cannot see at all what I look like. The other is a profile from a recent gig I played. My entire profile is sarcastic and completely ridiculous one-liners.

The novelty and cheekiness seem to be working much better. Than again I live in Vancouver and am more attracted to artsy, spontaneous girls with a mean wit. Like I said, these are just things I consider but may not be true for all girls. While your profile might be a ridiculous collection of one liners — it might still be a good reflection of your personality. Check and mate. So what would a girl do if they wanted to get the attention of a guy?

Or do they just wait for the guy to message them? It gets easier every time you do it, but it still hurts when you step on a mine. Never said any where that I expected anyone to feel bad for me. The purpose of the post is not to complain about getting a lot of messages, just to explain how it influences online dating behavior. What I do is keep the profile short and sweet. I describe my career interest for computer programming, music genres, documentaries, etc. Pics are something I have a tougher time with, since I am blind. If she has not put much effort into the profile, I see it as a red flag, but not necessarily a reason not to give her a chance.

Perhaps, she prefers to converse, to allow for mystery, or does not want to reveal too much personal information on her profile. I just use the lack of a profile as an opportunity to ask about her interest in music, computers, documentaries, travel, etc. I allow the message to be thought-provoking, to allow for conversation to take place. I hate it when a woman puts how the guy must have a car. Blindness is why I cannot have one, so I tend to not know what to say, when sending her the first message.

Very interesting perspective! I read through this and I follow all the rules. Have been since day one. And when I do get replies I can think of two message chains since like, last October the girls just disappear and just seem uninterested in meeting. I never am pushy about it at all, but if I ask in the first few messages to get lunch or go suuuuper slow the same thing.

This was a good read. Thank you. A lot of sound advice — I am a dude, and try to follow this. Lack of response in general for me is when I am messaging women who are not looking for types like me. And like you said, women get a lot of okcupid pegging, so repeat does sometimes get the response. And having not responded to a lot of women, or ones that liked me in a photo, it is the same thing I said.

They were not what I was looking for. Humor okcupid pegging everything up. Oh, and have low expectations. Dating sites do not mean you will land dates. Just like in real life. No worries. Good stuff. There is certainly a great deal to learn about this subject. I love all of the points you have made. It just seems so lame to urge people to post pics of them at exotic locations and out with people.

My personality speaks for itself, if I can get that vital first phone call that is lol And you are the obstacle to that. You represent the problem with online dating. Dating in general requires marketing oneself — ideally in a genuine way that attracts someone you really connect with. Women are very incentivized to NOT make those assumptions, because there are many more options.

Not to mention, we have safety to consider… so the more I feel like I know about the person, the more comfortable I feel, and the more I see that he has other people in his life that feel comfortable with him hence limit the selflessthe more comfortable I feel. Some good tips and I guess the intention behind the article was to help people.

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